My sexuality

Followed by more silence?

Published on August 9, 2004 By OckhamsRazor In Personal Relationships

I've read a couple threads on this and wanted to blurt out a quick blog on it.

Just for the record.

I was born a heterosexual. I never chose it...I've always been attracted to the opposite sex in a rather extreme fashion, and to the same sex not at all. It was never a choice, it wasn't even a contest.

So, I have a question for you "moralists" (and a term can't get much looser).

Which of you had the decision laid out in front of you and CHOSE to be heterosexuals? Tell us about those moments where you weighed the pros and the cons of having sex with a same sex partner and an opposite sex partner, and describe to us the decision making process whereby you came to the conclusion that you would choose to be heterosexual.

Because the way you all talk, it's a choice, right? You weren't ALWAYS hetero, right...there was a point where you couldn't decide and then you made that commitment and chose hetero because it was the right thing to do, yes? Isn't that the only way homosexuality can be "wrong" is if it is a choice? So the only way hetero can be right is if it's a choice too, yes? Ok, so tell us about your choice. Tell us about that moment where you almost blew a guy, and then decided to sleep with a woman instead. (or insert female version of the choice here) Tell me of your big hetero choice.

Hello?

Ock to "moralists", do you read me?

Comments

kingbee

on Aug 09, 2004

Which of you had the decision laid out in front of you and CHOSE to be heterosexuals?

perhaps it wasnt that simple. what about being in such close proximation to a heterosexual, he or she became infected and wound up being straight by association? or maybe someone at the crossroads of choosing sexual orientation happened to be unduly influenced by non-gay pornography?

Floozie

on Aug 09, 2004

Brilliant post!

My belief is that sexuality is a continuum, not a polarity. I am a generally straight female, but I have been known to make out with other girls as well. However, I can't ever imagine having ful blown sex with another woman. I have gay male friends who would say the same thing about themselves.

I think the problem that the moralists have is that 'people' (read homosexuals) act on their sexual preference (although preference kind of makes it sound like a choice still, doesn't it? Like saying I'd prefer chocolate ice cream, but I'll settle for vanilla) But it's OK for them to act on their own as it is considered the 'norm'.

I didn't make a choice to be oriented in the way I am - although, as Kingbee suggests, maybe the heterosexuality of my parents rubbed off on me and I am actually a lesbian? Damn bad influences!

Great post.

notsohighlyevolved

on Aug 09, 2004

I chose to be gay because i love the insults and beatings; i adore my restriction to cosmopolitan cities and the country pronunciation of the word "faggot"; i cherish the inability to marry the one i love or earn a decent wage within the "creative industries" without it being attributed to my "gayness"; i embrace vilification and ostracism; i have grown and benefited greatly from the past years of struggle and the rocks thrown and the words minced, the awkward silences and disappointed parents.

Some of my friends have been to visit psychiatrists and some have even had the electric tongue passed through their brain, they have begged to be changed, to have this choice undone, but they are by-gone days because pink is now in and cool and televised. CHOOSE NOW! Save yourself the hassle. Join us.

Remember – homo is just the first step towards homogenous.

OckhamsRazor

on Aug 09, 2004

... i embrace vilification and ostracism; i have grown and benefited greatly from the past years of struggle and the rocks thrown and the words minced, the awkward silences and disappointed parents

Don't forget to give a shout out to the "loving god" that makes it all possible, my friend. You owe that entity all the joy you've experienced.

notsohighlyevolved

on Aug 09, 2004

Don't forget to give a shout out to the "loving god" that makes it all possible, my friend. You owe that entity all the joy you've experienced.

I remember him in my prayers every night. I pray for his soul and hope that there is someone further up prepared to forgive him. (Oh dear. You must excuse my very un-PC use of the gender specific personal pronoun, being the recipient of joyous lessons in what is correct, befitting a person of my persuasions, i should know better) As far as all the joy, i once used that argument on my mother as justification for the harrowing pain inflicted upon her inadequately sized body during my birth - she told me that i could go f**k myself

Abe Cubbage

on Aug 15, 2004

Good post Ock.

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